Chris Croft
Tips of the Month Archive

Assertiveness Tip 10


You dont have to justify how you feel

You are responsible

I notice, I interpret

Faulty thinking

Persist like when training a puppy!

Your daily refresher

How to change yourself the first way

How to change yourself the second way

Being yourself

Its never too late to go back

Banish guilt from your life

Aggression it might be you!

You reap what you sow

Psychological games players

There are always two ways to see things - examples

Start small and build up

It's never too late to go back

Review your day or your week so far - have you been a bit too much of a doormat at all, or conversely have you been aggressive when you could have just been assertive? If it was doormat, there are two things you could do - go back to them now and say "I've been thinking about what happened and I'm not happy... and this is what I want...." or, secondly, to at least plan what you are going to say or do next time it happens.

Try actually writing down what you'll say - you won't actually use these notes of course, but it'll help you get the words really clear in your mind.

If you were a bit aggressive, you could consider apologising (while remaining assertive - "I was a bit short tempered there, though what you did was wrong, and this is what I think we should do about the situation"), or you could plan what you will do next time the situation comes up.

So there you have it - it's never too late to learn from something, and it's also never too late and put it right. "I've been thinking about what happened and I'm not happy..."

visit and have tips like this one sent to you free by email once a month - they never repeat!