If someone is being horrible to you, not openly but by body language or actions which are quietly aggressive, you can challenge them on it by using this format: I notice....I interpret...Am I correct? this is much better than either a) living with it or b) attacking them with "Fred, is there a problem?" at which they will probably just say "no" and carry on doing whatever it is... A couple of examples:
If every time you mention the budget at your meeting someone rolls his eyes and looks out of the window you can say "Fred, I notice that every time I mention the budget you roll your eyes and look out of the window, and I am interpreting this to mean that you are unhappy with my budget in some way - am I correct?"
If you invite someone to your meeting and they frequently don't turn up you can say "Fred (yes it's him again) I notice that when I invite you to my meeting you often don't turn up, and I interpret this to mean that you think my meeting is not worth coming to - am I right in thinking this?"they will either back down and say "no, sorry to give that impression", or say ""really, sorry, I didn't realise I was doing that" or "yes, I do feel that way, let's talk about it" and progress can be made. go on, confront them! Don't let them bully you with their body language!
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